my boyfriend had his ex-girl friend ask him back ut and he said no thats cause he is with me so anyway she went and killed herself know he is saying that he made her do it and all this stuff and he is saying that he is going to commit suicide.
How do you help someone that is thinking about committing suicide?
Nobody can make somebody else commmit suicide. In the end, its their decision to make, and only theirs. You can start by telling your boyfriend how important he is in your life, his family's, and his friends. Life has the opportunity to get better, whereas death is forever and never changes. His ex-girlfriend might have had a lot of things going on in her life and in her head that had absolutely nothing to do with your boyfriend. She made a decision that only she could make, but that decision shouldn't pull other people down with her. Remind your boyfriend that he can't make everybody happy, and that he didn't want his ex to do anything drastic, so its not his fault. All you can do is comfort him and be there for him. Don't be so callous about his ex-girlfriend's death. Its a sad thing, and bound to affect him.
Reply:aaaw darling, i'm so sorry that this has happened to you and your boyfriend, it's just not fair....both of you must be going through so much pain and guilt, and you need some advice which can help you...i wish i could help, but i've never been in this position, so i strongly advise that you get some professional help, counselling, as soon as you can. both of you must be feeling so bad, you need to talk to people, other than each other. Please find someone to talk to, right away, maybe the samaritans to start with? you got everything to lose, so do something!
Reply:Go out with him and do things together and point out all the values of life. Take him to see a priest maybe or a minister. Just let him know there is reason to live.
Reply:what! that is sad,like my mum always tell me do not love with your whole heart leave room for disappointment.i hope this is a lesson to you.
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